When we notice and attend to what we do not want to share and what we are willing to share we are exercising self-care, and it is a form of kindness. 

“Shed your omnipotence and enter into joyful observation of the child.” 

We say the Inner No to messages coming from ourselves and others that tell us we aren’t worthy. When we teach the Child or Child Self to say the Inner No, we give them the ability to take a huge pause in the psyche—a pause of kindness yet firmness.